How to Not to Live a Lie

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Be yourself as an innocent child trust that the real you is enough and never apologize for who you are LP

When I began my consciousness journey several years ago, I made choices that I made based on the approval of those that I thought knew more than I did or appeared to be more consciously aware then I was.  I spent the next several years reading books, taking lots of classes and being involved with groups and practices that offered something that I thought I needed to make me like them.  I compromised myself and my beliefs because I didn’t think I was good enough, not spiritual enough or wise enough.  The truth is I was all of those things, I just needed to believe I was.

A few ways I’ve found helpful to stop living a lie:

  • Love yourself a lot, know that love is really all there is, live your life wrapped in it

  • Honor your individuality by being yourself always

  • Follow the wisdom of your heart, no matter what everyone else tells you, your heart knows what is right for you

  • Maintain your integrity and who you are by surrounding yourself with people who don’t want to change you into someone else

  • Live spherically, in other words, live all areas of your life authentically: your work, your personal life, your relationships whatever you do and whoever your with, be yourself

  • Listen to your inner voice, trust it and know that it knows best, no matter what others think or say

  • Be true to your values and ethics, never compromise them no matter what. Trust me on this one, it is one of the most important steps to stop living a lie

  • Trust your choices, even if not every one doesn’t work out as you thought they would, the lessons will be invaluable for your growth.  Even though people in your life may seem to know more or have other ideas for how you should choose, their opinions and advice come from their personal experiences and beliefs

I am a photographer who loves nature.  I’ve been a photographer for years and have gotten really good at what I do. But because of my lack of confidence, I spent years holding back because I was intimidated by photographers who were far more experienced than I am.  Then one day a woman I knew suggested that I enter one of my images in a contest.  I decided to take a leap of faith when I found a site that held many contests along with offering a place to showcase my images.  I was nervous and unsure of myself but I created a profile and took one baby step at a time. Each day I added an image and surprisingly the members, who are all photographers, showed interest in them and started awarding them.  I took the next step which was to enter my images in contests, not to win, but to gain more visibility, it worked better than I imagined.  That was nearly a year ago, now my confidence is soaring, my focus is now on learning from all of the photographers I am connected with instead of being daunted by their experience, I honor it and know that they are helping me to become as good as they are.

If you resonate with any part of my story, then you too can break out of the cycle of disbelief, lack of confidence and conformity by just trusting yourself, trusting that who you are is enough.  We  have been told to believe that we have to become like someone else for so long that we don’t even know who we are anymore.  It took a few years and Universe stepping to push me forward before I finally got it.  It’s okay, you’re okay, you really are.

Thank you for stopping by, feel free to share your insights and stories.