Self Esteem Activity
How is your self-esteem? Review the following statements, then indicate if they are True or False for you. After finishing, go back and check over your answers. Answer all of the questions to get a true picture of yourself.
This personal exercise is to help you to better understand your self-esteem. There are no right or wrong answers, this is just a way for you to gauge where you are and where you can relieve yourself of beliefs and unresolved issues holding you back from being who you truly are.
- I don’t feel adequate when I handle new situations. True False
- I accept criticism without getting upset. True False
- I accept myself unconditionally. True False
- I don’t exaggerate, pretend or lie. True False
- I am not afraid to express my feelings. True False
- I don’t feel resentful when I lose. True False
- I don’t worry about what other’s think about me. True False
- I don’t feel a victim. True False
- I accept my body as it is. True False
- I don’t need other people’s opinion to feel good about myself. True False
- I can stand up for myself without being aggressive. True False
- I don’t feel like a failure. True False
- I don’t feel guilty when I say “no”. True False
- I have good relationship with other people, I have no fear of abandonment. True False
- I don’t begrudge other people’s success. True False
Total Score 12-15 = You have a deep sense of worth, self-respect and live a balanced life.
Total Score 8-11 = You are on the right path, keep it up.
Total Score 7 -5 = You have a tendency toward self-criticism and to put yourself down. You’re afraid to take risks and make mistakes. You lack confidence.
Total Score < 4 = You are concerned with other people’s opinions and you may lack assertiveness. Your tendency is to ignore your needs because you want to please others. You might have self-destructive habits. You lack confidence, hide your true feelings and have problems establishing intimacy in relationships.
How Self-Esteem Can Affect Your Life
I struggled with self-esteem issues for years, trying to live up to an image of perfection that wasn’t who I was or honoring the beauty of my uniqueness. In all the years that I had a cynical view of myself, the relationships I had reflected how I treated myself. Since then I’ve spent some time concentrating on myself and things have improved notably. Raising your self-esteem isn’t easy when you’re drowning in comparisons and an accumulation of beliefs that you’re not good enough just as you are, but when you take the steps to dig into your shadows and rise above all of that, it is a magnificent feeling.
Advantages for a High Self-Esteem from Me and Henry Ford Allegiance Health
- Your expectations are more in line with reality, and as a result, you’re less critical of yourself and others
- You’re better able to handle stress (and avoid the unhealthy side effects that come with it)
- You’re less likely to develop an eating disorder
- You’re not as likely to battle feelings of worthlessness, guilt or shame
- You’re more likely to be assertive about expressing what you want, need or think
- You can build strong, honest relationships (and are less likely to stay in unhealthy ones)
- You have greater confidence in your ability to make good decisions.
- You bounce back more easily when it comes to life’s inevitable setbacks
- You’re more able to forgive yourself and others
- You will have a clearer sense of your values, worth, and integrity
- You will be less self-focused and more able to reach out to others
- When you have a healthy self-esteem you will know yourself; be able to assess who you truly are, what your gifts are and ways to share them
- You will naturally love and accept yourself as you are, knowing that you can improve and develop any aspect of yourself that you choose
Secrets to Creating a Healthy Self Esteem and How to Apply Them
Live Consciously. Pay close attention to how you feel and the thoughts that come into your mind. Be aware of the view you hold of yourself and how it affects the way you act whether alone or with others.
Learn from Inaccurate Judgments. I personally don’t believe in mistakes, we only know what we know. It is okay to say, “I was wrong or made an assumption”, own it and learn from it. We do the best we can with what we know, when we know better, we do better. You’ve discovered something about yourself and you will go forward a better person.
Listen To Other’s Point Of View without Judgment. It is easy to get caught up in our own opinion, even if it’s negative. Asking for and listening to other points of view can help you to realize your own truth and what you have intuitively known all along. It also helps you to realize that when someone offers their opinion it is based on their perception and life experiences. A good way to express your opinion in a non confrontational way, “from my personal experience or based on what I’ve learned.”
Take Care Of Yourself Physically, Emotionally and Spiritually. Taking care of yourself should be focused on your physical, intellectual and spiritual well-being to create new behaviors. We all have choices, it is up to us to take responsibility for our over-all well-being.
Take Responsibility for Your Life. Not owning up to our actions keeps us stuck, feeling miserable and unhappy. Wayne Dyer said, “No matter how much I protest, I am totally responsible for everything that happens to me in my life”. Keeping this in mind will help you to create a different way of seeing things and being.
Speak and Act from Your Own Convictions. Be authentic and true to who you are and your values. Speak up and empower yourself to take control of your life. I guarantee you will feel better about yourself.
Have a Sense of Purpose & Direction. What do you want and where is your life going? It is necessary to develop a sense of direction and focus on what you want to create a healthy self-esteem.
Meditate Daily. Whether you take a walk in nature or meditate in a quiet and serene environment, take time to be still. This practice is vital to your mental and physical well-being and self-confidence.
Visualization – Use your ability to visualize your ideal situation, work, home, family, health, etc. See it in your mind as you would if it were real and the way your life would look, ideally. Visualizing is a great way to help create the life you want and stay focused in a positive way.
Forgive. Forgiving is never for anyone but yourself. Not forgiving is like carrying a heavy load without any relief, it is difficult and painful to move forward with your life. Forgiving is putting all of your baggage behind you and lightening your load.
Avoid ‘should’ statements. If you find that your thoughts are concentrated on shoulds, it is time to let go of them, and the unreasonable rules you’ve held for yourself. Instead embrace new ways to enhance your life and the unique person that you are.
Focus on the positive. Think about the good parts of your life. Remind yourself of things that have gone well. This is a way to help steer you away from the tendency to be negative about yourself and your abilities.
Encourage yourself. Give yourself credit for making positive changes. Whether the changes are in your relationships, your lifestyle or within you, give yourself a pat on the back for taking the necessary steps to view yourself in a healthier and honest way.
I decided to by happy for the rest of my life because it is good for my health, Voltaire
Thank you for taking time to stop by. I appreciate any ideas or thoughts you have about self-esteem or any questions that you have.