What have you consciously chosen to do today that will bring you joy?
Her stories were about hating her church and a breakup with a boyfriend. She talked as though she had no choice. I listened without saying anything, then when she stopped and looked at me as if for guidance, I said, “Only you know in your heart what is right for you.”
Then she spent the next ten minutes talking about her break-up situation as if she had no part in it. When she said thought she was going to die, and then just stood there, I gently offered “but you didn’t, you’re still here.” She hesitated, looked at me and then went back to her story and continued to talk about how badly she was treated and how she couldn’t believe it. I offered a consideration for her, “Now you know what you don’t want in your life.” This time she stopped and just looked at me and nodded her head.
Life is all about choices and decisions. When you choose in your own favor accessing your conscious mind, you are committing that you love yourself enough to know in your heart you are worthy of a good life. No one can do or say anything to you without you allowing them to do it. It is up to you to choose consciously who you want in your life and the way you want your life to go, no one but you.
Mindfulness means to choose consciously and create ways to live in alignment with your truth. I haven’t always been good at that, it has taken time to break the chains of old beliefs and conditioning. For me, digging deeply into why I do things and think the way I do has been a huge step forward for me. I have chosen to study the “Course in Miracles” as my guide toward better understanding of how I can change my patterns from just letting life happen to changing the direction that is best for me and correcting my thoughts. It has changed my life.
Starting each morning with conscious choices like how I wake up, to what I eat to and how I get ready to meet the day, no matter what I am doing has improved a lot since I chose this approach. Rather than allowing myself to fall into thoughts and behaviors as I did when I was working in big business, I create my day to be a unique and positive reflection of the way I want my life to be, consciously.
It takes thought, stopping yourself from acting, saying and being as you always have to actually paying attention to your actions and words in beneficial way. Not only to those around you, but to yourself. This change isn’t about pleasing the people around you, it is about feeling great about yourself and treating yourself with love and compassion.
Find what works for you and don’t let anything stop you from going for a mindful life. Happiness and enjoying life aren’t for special occasions, it is your birthright. When you change the way you live, your life will change for the better. If you have questions or you’d like more information, leave a comment for me.