How Experiencing the Power of Being Guided by the Universe Can Change Your Life

 

I’ve struggled for years trying to figure out how to go with the flow of the Universe. I tried mantras, positive affirmations, all of the tips and tricks that I read about, nothing seemed to work. I finally realized that it isn’t anything outside of us that we do, but what comes from our hearts that makes the difference.  Even if all of the people, situations or events seem to be going against us, they are really for us to benefit from.

I began listening, really listening to my inner voice, taking guided action and stopping right there.  I didn’t force anything, I didn’t try to make something happen or tell myself it was all a mistake and I was doomed, I allowed whatever was supposed to happen come about on its own. It isn’t easy at all, but when we are living spiritually in the true sense, it isn’t supposed to be.  So, I improved myself by not allowing my thinking brain to try to coerce the situation in my time and the way I thought it should go. Instead, I allowed my intuition to take the lead.

If everything in our lives happens for a reason (a cliché, I know) then we are being guided to learn from each situation powerful lessons that help us become who we are meant to be.  If things become unbearable as it did for me, then the Universe is putting us on a fast track for big change and big lessons. Every idea that just popped up, I followed, I knew they were coming from a higher source.

Working with the Universe is learning to stop forcing situations to be anything other than what they are.  Then listening to what your inner voice tells you, not your thoughts but your gut instinct, it knows just what you should do next. Then we have to accept the things that take place from it, no matter how you imagine a situation going, just go with the flow.  It is a matter of being open, patient, trusting and having faith that it will all work out.

The Universe, in all of its wisdom and understanding, will take care of you in the best way possible.  I know that because I am on the other side of a situation that was put there for me to experience the beauty of having your back against a wall and the Universe coming to the rescue.

I have no idea how my life is going to unfold, but I know now that I am right where I am supposed to be and the Universe has my back.

Thank you for taking the time to read my post.

 

 

A New Beginning for Me, Returning Home

After 18 years in Florida, I am finally returning to the wide open spaces of the West, a dream I’ve had for sometime.  In a week and half I will drive a 10-foot moving truck across country for the first time to Wyoming. I will spend several months with my beloved sister and her husband, then return home to Arizona.

You can take the girl out of Arizona but you can never take Arizona out of the girl. I’ve discovered that you never move because of a job, it is the wrong reason to pull up stakes to give up everyone and everything you love.  Big life changes should never be a reaction to a problem, they follow you everywhere you go. Change should always be a choice and felt in your heart.

As I count down to my departure, I will remember the experiences and places that gave me pleasure. It is with great excitement and nervousness that I embark on this new beginning of my life.

My deepest desires for anyone who is at crossroads are that you let go of your limited beliefs and plans and let God co-create with you to arrive at the answers that you are seeking. From first hand experience, the outcome may not be what you imagined, but it will be what you want and need.

I sincerely appreciate your time and reading my post.

Spirituality isn’t Found Outside, All We are Searching for is Love

In The Beginning

The truth is we’re already divine beings from the day we are born. There isn’t a person, place or book that can lead us to the truth of who we are, that comes from inside of us. For centuries we’ve been made to believe that to be spiritual we have to look outside of ourselves to find the answers we seek and the support to become Godlike. From our desperate desire for love, we’ve come to believe that we need to be led to being Godly and told what and how to believe in order to reach divinity.

Spiritually Authentic

Being spiritual and loving isn’t something that you do or the practices you’re taught, it is a natural part of who we already are. Spirituality isn’t found on a special day, in a place or a person, it is in the way we live, treat ourselves and the people in our lives, our respect for nature and the way we look at our part in the world. No amount of money or the many things we do in the name of spirituality defines us, we do that instinctually, it is a God given gift that every person on this planet has.

My Story

Several years ago I began my search for what I thought was missing from my life. I had been half-way committed to my spirituality for some time, but it just wasn’t enough any more. I was seeking a way of life that exemplified kindness, love and understanding with like-minded people. I found and joined a group that I learned from and enjoyed for over a year and a half. As I grew spiritually, my needs changed, so I moved on to another group that took me to a higher way of thinking and being. I continued seeking outside of myself for what I needed and was disappointed when it fell short. So, I consciously chose to stay away from any kind of spiritual organization for a year when a friend recommended that I go sit in on a group of a privately established spiritual organization. I was hesitant, but I’d been through a lot, I was vulnerable and lost and wanted new friends, so I went and chose to stay. After over a year of involvement I began to realize that being in a group setting with limited teachings just wasn’t in line with my personal values. That was when I finally chose to go my own way. I discovered my truth and what a true spiritual life was. I finally feel the peace and happiness that we are all here to experience.

In Closing

There is nothing like spending some time with like-minded people to share our beliefs. We become more open to other ideas and ways of being, learn to be more loving, compassionate and selfless. If we choose to be involved with a group or an organization that is divinely guided, it is much richer if we come into it knowing that we don’t need any of it to be loving, wise and good.

Thank you for stopping by.

 

Did you Know that Pets Enhance Living Mindfully?

Pets are more than something to care for or a four-legged companion and friend to spend time with. They teach us trust, unconditional love, peace, wisdom, presence, understanding and strength. When it comes to leaving a left brain life behind and taking those brave steps toward a life of creativity, heart and mindfulness, our animal friends are one of our greatest teachers.

My current best friend and life teacher is Mandy, a rescue cat who chose my mom and I in a pretty dark hour of our lives. When mom left the earth, Mandy was lost, she didn’t understand and showed it. I am glad I was experienced and observant enough to understand that it was my turn to return the love and help her heal.  She has recovered and enjoys a happy, healthy life with me. She is feisty, funny, unique, very smart and so loving that I can feel it, even when she’s sleeping.

Mandy the Heart Centered Feline

Shifting to a heart-centered life would never be what it is for me without an animal companion/teacher to share this path with. For if anyone knows about living in the moment and unconditional love, it is our animal friends. They never ask for more than what they give.  Learning to love like that can only come from them, for they’re built that way, that is how they are meant to affect our lives and what they are here to teach us.

I don’t believe in owning or dominating a pet, I see my pets as an equal, a companion to share my life with for as long as they are on earth.  I’ve learned so much from them.  I’ve seen them go through pain and continue to love, I’ve seen them struggle through change and continue to love, I’ve watched a last dying breath and she continued to love.

From first-hand experience, I know that they are incredibly smart and understand a lot more than we think they do. Mandy understands tone, she comes when she is called, she knows her name and she knows the change in my behavior when I am leaving the house, she shows me that when I am with her she is safe and feels at peace by sleeping right next to me. I know that she is sharing her wisdom with me all of the time, sometimes I just forget to pay attention.

When we take in a pet, we take on a commitment for more than their physical health and nutritional needs. We take on a commitment to have a special relationship that requires us to be loving, kind, connected and compassionate just as if we were adopting a child.  When we adopt children, we prepare our home and our lives for a life-long relationship that requires that we become flexible, understanding, loving and aware of what that child needs and has been through before they came into our lives. This is how having an animal in our life must be, I see no difference.

Where did we get the idea that animals are a lower form of life and separate from us and they don’t have the capacity to affect our lives as dramatically as they do? Dogs and cats are being used more and more for healing for people with serious illnesses, as companions for the elderly, as best friends for children with medical challenges. If not for animal companions where would all of that love and healing come from?

When our human relationships get to be too much, our animal friends are the perfect antidote to having unconditional love and lots of fun in our lives. But more than that, we can learn from them to love those who have hurt us, those who have left us, those who have betrayed us, those who have turned away when we needed them most, because they know the heart and how to love.

When you’re on a path to live mindfully, yes, there are many human teachers that help us become better, but our animal friends are some of the best teachers because they are always doing it with love no matter what.

To learn more about your connections with pets, go to Mindful Connections.

Thank you for stopping by.

A Self-Esteem Activity Including Ways to Enhance Your Confidence

Self Esteem Activity

How is your self-esteem?  Review the following statements, then indicate if they are True or False for you. After finishing, go back and check over your answers. Answer all of the questions to get a true picture of yourself.

This personal exercise is to help you to better understand your self-esteem. There are no right or wrong answers, this is just a way for you to gauge where you are and where you can relieve yourself of beliefs and unresolved issues holding you back from being who you truly are.

  1. I don’t feel adequate when I handle new situations.  True False
  2. I accept criticism without getting upset.  True False
  3. I accept myself unconditionally. True False
  4. I don’t exaggerate, pretend or lie. True False
  5. I am not afraid to express my feelings. True False
  6. I don’t feel resentful when I lose. True False
  7. I don’t worry about what other’s think about me. True False
  8. I don’t feel a victim. True False
  9. I accept my body as it is. True False
  10. I don’t need other people’s opinion to feel good about myself. True False
  11. I can stand up for myself without being aggressive. True False
  12. I don’t feel like a failure. True False
  13. I don’t feel guilty when I say “no”. True False
  14. I have good relationship with other people, I have no fear of abandonment. True False
  15. I don’t begrudge other people’s success. True False

Total Score 12-15 = You have a deep sense of worth, self-respect and live a balanced life.

Total Score 8-11 = You are on the right path, keep it up.

Total Score 7 -5 = You have a tendency toward self-criticism and to put yourself down. You’re afraid to take risks and make mistakes. You lack confidence.

Total Score < 4 = You are concerned with other people’s opinions and you may lack assertiveness. Your tendency is to ignore your needs because you want to please others. You might have self-destructive habits. You lack confidence, hide your true feelings and have problems establishing intimacy in relationships.

How Self-Esteem Can Affect Your Life

I struggled with self-esteem issues for years, trying to live up to an image of perfection that wasn’t who I was or honoring the beauty of my uniqueness. In all the years that I had a cynical view of myself, the relationships I had reflected how I treated myself. Since then I’ve spent some time concentrating on myself and things have improved notably. Raising your self-esteem isn’t easy when you’re drowning in comparisons and an accumulation of beliefs that you’re not good enough just as you are, but when you take the steps to dig into your shadows and rise above all of that, it is a magnificent feeling.

Advantages for a High Self-Esteem from Me and Henry Ford Allegiance Health

  1. Your expectations are more in line with reality, and as a result, you’re less critical of yourself and others
  2. You’re better able to handle stress (and avoid the unhealthy side effects that come with it)
  3. You’re less likely to develop an eating disorder
  4. You’re not as likely to battle feelings of worthlessness, guilt or shame
  5. You’re more likely to be assertive about expressing what you want, need or think
  6. You can build strong, honest relationships (and are less likely to stay in unhealthy ones)
  7. You have greater confidence in your ability to make good decisions.
  8. You bounce back more easily when it comes to life’s inevitable setbacks
  9. You’re more able to forgive yourself and others
  10. You will have a clearer sense of your values, worth, and integrity
  11. You will be less self-focused and more able to reach out to others 
  12. When you have a healthy self-esteem you will know yourself; be able to assess who you truly are, what your gifts are and ways to share them
  13. You will naturally love and accept yourself as you are, knowing that you can improve and develop any aspect of yourself that you choose

Secrets to Creating a Healthy Self Esteem and How to Apply Them

Live Consciously. Pay close attention to how you feel and the thoughts that come into your mind. Be aware of the view you hold of yourself and how it affects the way you act whether alone or with others.

Learn from Inaccurate Judgments.  I personally don’t believe in mistakes, we only know what we know. It is okay to say, “I was wrong or made an assumption”, own it and learn from it. We do the best we can with what we know, when we know better, we do better. You’ve discovered something about yourself and you will go forward a better person.

Listen To Other’s Point Of View without Judgment. It is easy to get caught up in our own opinion, even if it’s negative. Asking for and listening to other points of view can help you to realize your own truth and what you have intuitively known all along. It also helps you to realize that when someone offers their opinion it is based on their perception and life experiences. A good way to express your opinion in a non confrontational way, “from my personal experience or based on what I’ve learned.”

Take Care Of Yourself Physically, Emotionally and Spiritually. Taking care of yourself should be focused on your physical, intellectual and spiritual well-being to create new behaviorsWe all have choices, it is up to us to take responsibility for our over-all well-being. 

Take Responsibility for Your Life. Not owning up to our actions keeps us stuck, feeling miserable and unhappy.  Wayne Dyer said, “No matter how much I protest, I am totally responsible for everything that happens to me in my life”. Keeping this in mind will help you to create a different way of seeing things and being.

Speak and Act from Your Own Convictions. Be authentic and true to who you are and your values. Speak up and empower yourself to take control of your life. I guarantee you will feel better about yourself.

Have a Sense of Purpose & Direction. What do you want and where is your life going?  It is necessary to develop a sense of direction and focus on what you want to create a healthy self-esteem. 

Meditate Daily. Whether you take a walk in nature or meditate in a quiet and serene environment, take time to be still. This practice is vital to your mental and physical well-being and self-confidence.

Visualization – Use your ability to visualize your ideal situation, work, home, family, health, etc. See it in your mind as you would if it were real and the way your life would look, ideally. Visualizing is a great way to help create the life you want and stay focused in a positive way.

Forgive. Forgiving is never for anyone but yourself. Not forgiving is like carrying a heavy load without any relief, it is difficult and painful to move forward with your life. Forgiving is putting all of your baggage behind you and lightening your load. 

Avoid ‘should’ statements. If you find that your thoughts are concentrated on shoulds, it is time to let go of them, and the unreasonable rules you’ve held for yourself. Instead embrace new ways to enhance your life and the unique person that you are.

Focus on the positive. Think about the good parts of your life. Remind yourself of things that have gone well. This is a way to help steer you away from the tendency to be negative about yourself and your abilities.

Encourage yourself. Give yourself credit for making positive changes. Whether the changes are in your relationships, your lifestyle or within you, give yourself a pat on the back for taking the necessary steps to view yourself in a healthier and honest way.

  I decided to by happy for the rest of my life because it is good for my health, Voltaire

Thank you for taking time to stop by. I appreciate any ideas or thoughts you have about self-esteem or any questions that you have.

 

Secrets to Assuming the Best

softly-into-the-lightAssuming the best is first and foremost accepting the way things are. Then it’s about being prepared for a better outcome for our growth by altering our beliefs, changing our self-talk and shifting our perspective. I know it sounds like a lot especially with 24-hour news and negative media everywhere, but from my first-hand experience it really works.

Most of us believe that the worst is coming and manage to talk ourselves into defeat and disaster, so, don’t you think it’s time to shift gears, do the work and empower yourself to experience the good of the Universe? By believing that the worst is going to happen, our thoughts being a force of energy as is the Universe, it nearly guarantees that the outcome will be just what we expect. But, it doesn’t have to be that way, because we always have a choice. We cannot control or change external circumstances and no matter what we perceive they are happening to help us. So, the best reminder is we get to choose how we respond and treat whatever situation we’re dealing with differently.

I learned the hard way, I insisted on trying to manipulate and fight what I was experiencing; it never worked. When I finally got it, I knew it was up to me to stop setting myself up to suffer by expecting more from myself. I know it feels a lot better when I focus on an outcome that is for my benefit rather than feeling like I am trapped in a bad situation that just won’t go away.

When a difficulty arises the best way to change your approach is to let go of the way you’re seeing things and letting go of what you think should happen. The more we fight and resist what is happening the more it will hang around and repeat itself until we are ready for a happier existence. It isn’t just about imagining a positive or better outcome, it’s about re-patterning your brain’s way of seeing things. Once we apply this method and open ourselves up to experience a different outcome, our way of life will undergo a significant transformation.

Another way to help our brain expand and change is to learn something new every day, no matter how simple it may be. This one process helps to rewire our brain and change the way it operates. Change truly is mind over matter, we are in the pilot’s seat. It also helps to remember even when a situation goes differently than expected, we will improve and grow.

Changing our beliefs and habits takes effort and faith, even if it is the size of a grain of rice.  Listen to Joe Dispenza in the video below explain how rewiring and evolving your brain will lead to a healthier and happier life.

Thank you for stopping by, namaste.

Even when You’re at Rock Bottom, Remember Obstacles are Your Greatest Teacher

Whether you’re disabled, disadvantaged, live with an illness, are homeless, have had a rough past or you’re dealing with inner pain that no one can see, obstacles that seem to block your progress are really there to help you become stronger, resilient, determined, brave and connected to your version of God or your higher self. When we stand up for ourselves and rise, we inspire others to do the same.

When adversity comes at us, we feel like life is throwing complications and hardship at us to cause hardship and pain.  We want to run, we drown our sorrows in alcohol, drug addiction, food addiction, self-pity, victimization, isolation and depression. Fighting life’s challenges never changes or solves anything, accepting and dealing with them does.

I used to resist by reacting, crying, asking why me and things only got worse. When I finally paid attention and realized the way to make my life better was up to me then everything changed. Instead of seeing those difficulties as something to fear and feel helpless to overcome, I now understand that they are actually first-class teachers that serve a purpose and an opportunity to ascend to our greatest self.

  • Worry and panic do nothing but hurt you and make things worse
  • Numbing yourself only prolongs the pain and the issue
  • Pray
  • You can do this
  • You are worthy
  • You are loved
  • You are beautiful
  • You are valuable
  • You are here for a purpose
  • Be an inspiration to yourself and everyone around you by rising above whatever life brings
  • Get help if you need it
  • Lean on friends for support
  • Seek group support if that feels right for you
  • You matter
  • Your life matters
  • Who you are inside is what will propel you forward
  • Love is everywhere and everything and all that matters

Consider problems or difficulties as a crossroad with choices, so stop, take a breath and sit with it until whatever needs to be done to move forward comes. No matter what you’re faced with, you can work your way through it by adapting a different perspective so you will become better, not just for yourself but for everyone in your life.

Thank you for stopping by, namaste.

A Life without Borders

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One day at a time is the way I’ve been able to break the habit of putting borders around my dream, it is work, but it is so worth it because when we hit our stride and go beyond where we’ve gone before, the feeling is magical then nothing can stop you.

Rather than being focused on obstacles, our perceived limitations and who we are through the eyes of everyone around us,  we can create a visual of ourselves as powerful creators with the capacity to be whatever we want to be, but we have to work for it.  It takes determination and drive to reach higher than you have before to achieve what you were brought to this planet to do.  I know first hand because I’ve done it so I know that all of the struggles, efforts and pushing myself works and is so worth it.

The limits or restrictions we have are created in our mind and can be un-created with effort and belief in ourselves. Hesitation and doubt are just catalysts to push ourselves beyond our comfort zone and go for it.  I do and have done it most of my life not knowing that I was breaking the bonds of my limiting beliefs.  But as I look back I can see that I wouldn’t be where I am if I hadn’t taken all of those leaps.

This week I made major progress when I took a leap of faith and it paid off, the feeling of that accomplishment is life-changing for me and can be for you.  I hesitated, made excuses and doubted my abilities, but I pushed through the fear of the unknown thinking, what is the worst that can happen?, and it didn’t.  It was so much better than I thought.

That feeling alone has helped me to ascend to a new level of self-confidence and knowing that I can do anything if I just get out of my way.

Be an inspiration this week, make yourself go beyond what is easy. The effect you’ll have, not just on yourself but on the people around you, will be transformational.  So many people are held back by beliefs they’ve held all their lives, show them anything is possible by believing in and going for the impossible.

Namaste, thank you for stopping by.

Your Heart’s Wisdom – The Power of Belly Breathing

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Several years ago I learned to breathe through my diaphragm the way we breathe when we are born, it literally changed my health.  The heart’s wisdom is only improved when we take the steps to create a healthy environment for it to live in. Along with bettering your overall heart health, diaphragmatic breathing also improves many other vital functions and helps your body to become stronger and more able to withstand the daily stresses of life and even reverse some already present medical problems.

Here are more facts supporting breathing through your diaphragm instead of your lungs. I’ve also included informational resources for you to read to understand the process and benefits.

To help you realize the importance of deep diaphragmatic breathing, here are 12 benefits to regularly practicing this healthy habit:

  1. Reduces the risk factors for heart disease such as lowering bad cholesterol (LDL), raising good cholesterol (HDL), lowing blood pressure and stabilizing blood sugars
  2. Cuts chances of cancer by as much as 400%
  3. Reduces negative stress by lowering the stress hormone cortisol)
  4. Helps reduce cravings for processed carbohydrates (junk food)
  5. Cuts chances of diabetes by strengthening the insulin beta receptor sites
  6. Improves quality of sleep by improving stage 1 and stage 4 sleep cycles
  7. Lengthens the cell’s life span by cleansing the cells more thoroughly through increased lymphatic flow
  8. Slows the aging process by increasing the secretion of human growth hormone (the anti-aging hormone)
  9. Optimizes the immune system by strengthening T-cell formation and improving lymphocyte production
  10. Improves your mood by elevating the “feel good” hormone, serotonin, and other positive endorphins
  11. Improves mental focus and concentration by increasing blood flow to the Pre-Frontal Cortex of the brain
  12. Improves the quality and effectiveness of meditation by changing brain wave activity from the more stressful beta wavelengths to more relaxing and healthier alpha and theta brain wavelengths.

Here’s how to reap the amazing benefits of deep diaphragmatic breathing.· Sit in a comfortable chair with your eyes closed and inhale very slowly thru your nose using your diaphragm (your belly should expand while you inhale with little or no chest movement).· Once your lungs are full and your belly has expanded, hold your breath for about 6 to 12 seconds. ·Then slowly exhale thru your mouth making sure you use your belly to push the air out.· Once your lungs are empty and your belly is contracted, repeat the cycle.· Your goal is to complete 10 cycles· (inhale, hold, exhale) or 8 to 10 minutes of deep diaphragmatic breathing a day.The best times to practice this type of deep breathing is first thing in the morning and right before you go to bed.· To enhance the benefit of deep breathing, I suggest visualizing your goals or picturing your ideal life while practicing this habit.· Personally, I pray while practicing deep diaphragmatic breathing.

For the next 30 days, I challenge you to practice deep diaphragmatic breathing for at least 10 minutes a day everyday.· This is one of the best prescriptions for improving your health and optimizing your wellness.· Good luck and good breathing. (from http://www.samvarner.com/physical-wellness/deep-breathing.html)

Mainstream medical professionals are promoting the natural and simple process of slow, deep breathing for ultimate health and peace of mind.

Here are a few resources to help you to learn more about it:

From Harvard Health Publications:

Relaxation techniques: Breath control helps quell errant stress response

http://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/relaxation-techniques-breath-control-helps-quell-errant-stress-response

From Psychology Today:

The Science of Slow Deep Breathing

Learn about the powerful health benefits of slow deep breathing

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-neuroscience-mindfulness/201602/the-science-slow-deep-breathing

From the Chopra Center:

Breathing for Life: The Mind-Body Healing Benefits of Pranayama

http://www.chopra.com/articles/breathing-for-life-the-mind-body-healing-benefits-of-pranayama

Thank you for stopping by, namaste.

Be Invincible

This inspirational video is less about Jared’s problem and more about his journey.  We all have overwhelming problems that seem to be the way our life is and nothing ever seems to change.  We are so close to our problems that we don’t see that no one but us can change it.  When we finally decide to do something, we encounter what seem to be roadblocks to our outcome, when it’s all there to help us become what we are striving toward, in God’s way, love.

Jared’s story is an inspiration to us all to be unstoppable, determined and love ourselves enough to want to be the best we can be on regardless of what barriers are put in front of us.