A Dying Woman’s Wish for Everyone

Sometimes we get caught up in or allow what’s going on around us to dominate our lives, then I read this message shared on Facebook reminding me of how sacred life is. Kerri, whom I do not know, crossed over in 2021 from brain cancer, her words touched my soul. I believe that the most soulful and authentic words come from the humbleness that comes with leaving our earthly life. Kerri spoke her truth and in turn inspires us to live whole heartedly and bravely. This is a very worthy read.

“If you’re reading this, this fu$king brain cancer probably got me.

But let me be crystal clear while I’m able: I did not ”lose a battle” against cancer. This is a ridiculous, steamy pile of horse shit that society has dumped on cancer patients. Western medicine, and Western culture, especially, is so uncomfortable talking about death that instead it created this “battle” analogy that basically shames people who die from cancer.

News flash: None of us gets out alive from this rodeo called life.

There is no shame in dying from cancer – or any serious illness. And it doesn’t need to be a battle. It’s a transition that each of us will go through. I was asked by a shaman, whom I spoke to after my second brain surgery, “Are you running towards life or running away from death?”

Whoa! That got my attention.

There’s a BIG difference. I got it wrong more often than not.

Don’t let fear fuel your choices. Live fearlessly. Run TOWARDS life. Don’t worry about what people will think. Trust me, it doesn’t matter.

Focus on you. Be true to yourself. Be your own best friend. People who tell you you’re selfish are not your people. If the voice in your head says these unkind things, get a new voice. Honor your mental health and seek out a good therapist with the same vigor you’d search for a romantic partner.

Speaking of, be intentional about cultivating friendships that lift you up. As those friendships grow and change, don’t overlook them while you search for that “great love of your life.” (No, I’m not suggesting you sleep with your bestie. But you do you!)

Another unhelpful message that we get from society is that we need a “love of our life,” as a romantic partner.

Single and childless when I was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer, I looked around my life and came up sputtering and sobbing from the wave of grief washed over me. I thought I’d be doing this alone… no husband, no kids, no “great love.”

How wrong I was. At the first appointment with my neuro oncologists, one of the nurses diligently hauled in chair after chair for the great loves of my life who came with me that horrible day and many days after that.

I sat and listened while the doctor explained the 12-month treatment plan, focusing on my breathing, then looked around the room…. filled with great loves of my life: incredible women friends whom I had met at various stages of my life.

Surround yourself with people who contradict that unkind voice, people who see your light, and remind you who you are: an amazing soul.

Learn how to receive these reflections from your people. Because they are speaking the Truth.

Love yourself, no matter how weird and silly it might feel. Every morning, give yourself a hug before your feet hit the floor. Look deeply into your eyes in a mirror. Say to yourself, out loud, “I trust you.” That voice in your head might say you’re a dork. Ignore it.

As I prepare to leave this body and embark on this mysterious journey of my soul, I hope these observations from my deathbed are somehow useful.

What I know, deep in my bones, is that learning to love myself has led me to be able to say this: I’m so proud of how I lived.

May you, dear reader, feel the same when you head out on your soul journey, too. Until then, enjoy the ride. And always eat dessert first, especially if there’s pie!” Kerri Grote

Change Your Idea of a Miracle and You’ll See Them Everywhere

“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.” ― Albert Einstein

What is a miracle to you? There is no real definition of a miracle, we each have our own understanding of what a miracle is. If you think about it, we are a miracle, nature is a miracle, life is a miracle, there are numerous miracles around us, all we have to do is be open and look.

One of My Many “Miracles” – When my career began shifting in the early 2000’s, for some unknown reason, memories of the Arizona mountains and the wide open spaces of the west began coming to the forefront of my mind. Then in early 2016 my memories turned into vivid nightly dreams, something I’d never experienced. I knew in my heart something bigger than I could imagine was taking place. A little more than a year later a window of opportunity opened to take what I call guided action. Even though the path was filled with unexpected but necessary challenges, what I consider a series of miracles took place and I am now back home in Arizona and less than 10 minutes away from those beautiful mountains.

Miracles happen all of the time, many don’t appear to be significant, but every one of them is connected with belief and concept. In 2016, after a sequence of experiences, I wanted to spend time learning to recognize miracles. What an inspirational and powerful way to experience life. I’d read an article about recognizing and listing miracles that we experience throughout our lives, I was amazed at what I discovered. Because of that exercise, I left behind a life of worrying and living in the past by turning my attention to recognizing miracles every day. No matter what challenges and hardships I’m faced with, it has become a part of my daily routine. I love the energy of that focus and retraining myself to see the gifts that life brings. While many people think of miracles as something earth shattering, most are small but meaningful and can shift our way of experiencing life.

Transforming Your Life – Miracle Awareness

One of my daily practices is an on-going dialogue I have with God that keeps me on my toes by being grateful and identifying miracles throughout my day. Those dialogues eliminate negative thoughts, feeling sorry for myself and help me to remember the many challenges that I and millions of people are faced with are all part of the intricate path we are on in what I’ve come to call the school of life. How we use that education can make a considerable difference in how our life story goes.

My belief is that miracles come in all sizes, shapes

They have a variety of ways of showing up. If you’re open and allow life to run its course and for the flow of the Universe to happen in its own way and time, miracles will be obvious to you, if you’re lost in depressive feelings, anxious or disconnected, they will go unnoticed.

Stay open to life

When you’re open and notice what’s going on around you, you’ll realize that there are no hidden meanings in events, miracles will occur in many ways and through unexpected circumstances, they are fascinating and curious. Even when things seem bleak, awareness of the magnificence around you will bring your attention to the miracles that we can experience every day.

Example: As a photographer I had spent several years on a journey learning how to compose, respect wildlife and to experience little everyday miracles. When I left the east coast, the door opened for my photography to grow in ways I could have never imagined. My first stop was Wyoming to spend time with my sister. While I was there we took a couple of trips to one of the two places where we could see wild buffalo. On one of the trips a small herd was grazing along the road. I excitedly turned on my new camera and began shooting, I was in seventh heaven. About nine months later I discovered Wildlife Photo of the Day, a division of the World Wildlife Fund and an online community that showcases the best wildlife photos. Images are submitted by thousands of photographers but I decided to take a chance anyway and submitted the photo above. A day later it was unexpectedly selected as Photo of the Day and exhibited on all of their social media sites, for me that was a miracle.

The Discovery of Miracles From Deepak Chopra:

  • Place significance on opening up even more.
  • Notice the little miracles, synchronicity and unusual events.
  • Value these anomalies for what they are—clues to a higher reality.

If you keep these steps in mind, tiny, isolated events will start to form larger patterns. Think of how you respond to music. We all hear catchy tunes, but some people go further and think, “I really feel drawn to music.” They value music as more than a passing moment of pleasure. So they take lessons and delve into how music works. The more they delve, the greater their ability grows. In the case of consciousness, there is no limit to your growth. Yet as with music, you can’t let the small beginnings slip away. That’s what the parable of the mustard seed teaches in the New Testament. Jesus points out that most seeds fall on stony ground, but a few land in the right place and grow from an invisible seed into a flourishing plant.

I see life as a gift, an opportunity to make use of the best within ourselves to make a difference in the world.

 “Seeing a miracle will inspire you, but knowing you are a miracle will change you.” ~ Deborah Brodie

Thank you for reading my post, I sincerely appreciate your time.

Bagels and Angels

The Bagels

This week I made a batch of bagels, my second go at making homemade.  I wish I had asked the angels to intervene in my attempt because I really needed their help. Everything was going well, they were beautiful, almost perfect in shape and size before I popped them in the oven.  The oven we have is a bit off so when I checked after 10 minutes, they were beginning to firm up, but the bagels were still pale.  I turned the oven up, but when I checked on them the bagels were still light in color. Then I got the idea to turn on the broiler, just for a couple of minutes.  Well, that was one minute too long, when the timer went off, I ran into the kitchen to retrieve my beautiful bagels only to see dark smoke coming out of the oven.

I was so disappointed.  I pulled open the door, the bagels were dark on top, the sesame seeds were ashes. So, I grabbed a nearby knife and began scraping.  I managed to salvage all 10 of them, but oh how I wish I had called on my angels for perfect bagels.  I know that next time, I will definitely ask them to help me produce golden, unburnt bagels.

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The Angels

I believe there are Angels all around us and they can be a vital part of our lives. For me, they are a significant part of my life and spiritual practices. They are my friends, life support, inner wisdom and gentle reminders to rely on love and compassion.

Did you know angels will never interfere in your life if they are not called upon? The only time they intervene without being asked for is when you’re in a life threatening situation before your time. This isn’t something I knew all those years ago, but I am forever grateful that they are always there watching and waiting to help.

My life wouldn’t be what it is without them. Many years ago, I was transformed when I experienced an amazing angel intervention.

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The Intervention

A friend and I planned a Saturday fun night at her place, we were going to have dinner, then watch a movie with lots of conversation in-between. As usual, Saturday was busy for me, so I had to keep an eye on the time so I wouldn’t be late. The drive to her home was just what I needed, it was my time to enjoy the beauty around me and unwind. When I got there, the sun was just slipping beyond the horizon, its rays were glinting off the jagged edges of the mountain range just a few miles away, it was beautiful.

When she answered the door, her two dogs greeted me with their usual enthusiasm. We worked our way to the kitchen where I made myself comfortable while she finished making dinner. By the time we finished eating and cleaned up, it was well after 8. It had been a long day for both of us so we were ready to relax.  We grabbed a soda, she put the movie in the VCR then we made ourselves comfortable. When the movie ended, as always we talked about it, then I happened to look over at the time and saw it was nearly 11 so I cut the conversation short to head for home.

I chose an easy, well-lit route where I knew the traffic would be light. The first leg of my drive was fairly uneventful.  There was little traffic around me so it was easy to notice the rather new white pick-up truck driving next to me. there was soft music playing on the radio, I was relaxed.

As I scanned the road ahead, I saw a compact blue car accelerate from the driveway it was in out into traffic. In a state of disbelief at what was happening, my heart pounding, I couldn’t comprehend what was taking place. All of sudden my headlights were reflecting on the side of the blue car that had come to stop.  One last attempt to avoid a collision I turned the steering wheel to veer the car into the next lane but the pick-up truck was there. I panicked, all I could think was I am going to die. I closed my eyes expecting a crash, it felt like the end. Then there was silence. what happened? I slowly opened my eyes not knowing what to expect. I was still in my car, the road was clear and my car was still moving forward. I couldn’t believe it, there was no crash. I was numb and confused, I couldn’t understand what had just happened. I began crying uncontrollably, I couldn’t catch my breath. I drove home and fell into my mother’s arms grateful to be alive. I realized that I had just experienced Divine intervention, I was forever changed.

Today, I intentionally live with angels around me with great comfort and peace. Angels are non-religious and present everywhere. The help they give isn’t always what we want and may even seem like they aren’t helping at all, but I’ve come to understand that they give us what we need, which is always better than what we want.

Angels are a beautiful divine presence there for us so we never feel alone, and always feel comforted and safe in their benevolent protection. When you connect with the Angels, they always speak with you. It is that tiny, faint whisper that lovingly guides you in the direction of love, compassion and kindness.

Thank you for stopping by. May you be surrounded by angels.

And Then There Are Those Miracles, Believing in What We Cannot See

We are a living breathing miracle, we cannot see all of the miracles that we are but they happen every moment of every day.  From well-known scientific researcher, teacher, lecturer and author, Joe Dispenza, “There are trillions of cells that make up your body. For the moment I want you to think about just one. That one cell is incredibly busy. In just the last second there were over 100,000 chemical reactions that occurred in this cell. Now, step back and consider your body as a whole. The sheer volume of activity happening inside you at any given moment is almost incomprehensible.

Waking up, walking, breathing in and out, our eyes blinking, washing our hands, hearing music, all what appear to mundane acts are miracles supported by activity within our body that we never give a second thought to. Just as we are a miracle, they are all around us even though we don’t recognize them.

The rising sun, the breeze blowing, the clouds in the sky, rainfall are all miracles. In order to recognize miracles that happen every day, we must believe that life itself is a miracle.  No matter our circumstances, the miracle of us is breathtaking.

Part of an awakened lifestyle is knowing that something beyond appearances is always going on and to have faith in what we cannot see. What I see are teachers instead of situations and to anticipate an outcome that will benefit my growth as a better person.

We’ve come to expect big, force of nature miracles that may or may not happen, while missing out on obscure occurrences that truly are the miracles. In essence, believing in more is our launch into a whole new way of being, that is why it is necessary for us to recognize everything as a miracle.  When we look at life that way, we become a force to be reckoned with.

‘There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is.’” Albert Einstein 

 

The Divine Feminine is Vital in the Work of Awakening

The Divine Feminine is about including and valuing the feminine as an essential dynamic of the creative life force. It is celebrating and maintaining the attitude that a balanced life is the Divine combined with the masculine, as in Yin and Yang you cannot have one without the other. It is about remembering our interconnection and oneness.

The Divine Feminine is needed now more than ever, like the blessed event of birthing of a child, it is time to raise awareness of the beauty and perfection of our creative life force and our connection with each other necessary for the survival and progress of humanity and Mother Earth.

I’ve been thinking about this a great deal and realized that rather than expect everyone to embody this way of thinking for a big change, it must start with us as individuals. We, as awakened women, must restore our connection with each other beginning with our family, friends and in our local communities. It is vital to the transformation of the way the world functions to practice our natural ability to be kind, compassionate, thoughtful and remembering that everyone needs and wants to be loved.

The world is in a state of chaos that can only be lifted and transformed with the inclusion of the divine feminine. It is time for awakened women to be in the forefront as heart-centered leaders if the human race is to endure.

Our attention must be focused on the way we treat each other combined with an understanding of the higher purpose of humanity. Women’s true nature is to listen with wisdom, connect and create from a place of love, compassion and kindness rather than from the old paradigm of separation and ignorance. Our way of living must be centered on learning to live together, helping each other and supporting the values that will restore our way of life to appreciate the strength in community.

Modern day society is controlled by the masculine drive of greed, separation and being disembodied from the sacredness of the divine feminine. As pigment of skin does not determine our value or status, neither does gender. It is time to recognize the importance of the divine feminine, honoring women and our place in the world.

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Loving Yourself First

 

self-loveBefore you can love others, you must love yourself first and foremost. Speak only lovingly to yourself and about yourself, there are a multitude of benefits that you will experience with a boost to your self-esteem.

Here are some ways to get started:

  1. Make yourself a priority
  2. Stop comparing yourself to others
  3. List your strengths and focus on them
  4. De-clutter your surroundings
  5. Become active, walk, run, swim
  6. Express yourself creatively doing whatever makes you happy cooking, pottery, photography, dancing, art
  7. Surround yourself with positive people who will support you
  8. Be your own best friend, take a deep breath and know you’re doing the best that you can
  9. Be true to you, enjoy the unique beautiful person that you are

How does resistance to self-love show up in your life? Are you staying with someone who you aren’t aligned with? Are you staying in a job that you are unhappy with? Is your health idling? Are you stuck in the problems of your life?

If you answer yes to any of these questions, then it is time to embrace love for yourself. Then the actions you take will not only benefit you, but everyone involved. What you’re effecting is an act of compassion to yourself that spreads like wildfire to everyone around you.

Kindness and love are natural to us. When you show compassion toward yourself then you’re helping to create a more peaceful and loving world.

Thank you for stopping by, namaste

Even when You’re at Rock Bottom, Remember Obstacles are Your Greatest Teacher

Whether you’re disabled, disadvantaged, live with an illness, are homeless, have had a rough past or you’re dealing with inner pain that no one can see, obstacles that seem to block your progress are really there to help you become stronger, resilient, determined, brave and connected to your version of God or your higher self. When we stand up for ourselves and rise, we inspire others to do the same.

When adversity comes at us, we feel like life is throwing complications and hardship at us to cause hardship and pain.  We want to run, we drown our sorrows in alcohol, drug addiction, food addiction, self-pity, victimization, isolation and depression. Fighting life’s challenges never changes or solves anything, accepting and dealing with them does.

I used to resist by reacting, crying, asking why me and things only got worse. When I finally paid attention and realized the way to make my life better was up to me then everything changed. Instead of seeing those difficulties as something to fear and feel helpless to overcome, I now understand that they are actually first-class teachers that serve a purpose and an opportunity to ascend to our greatest self.

  • Worry and panic do nothing but hurt you and make things worse
  • Numbing yourself only prolongs the pain and the issue
  • Pray
  • You can do this
  • You are worthy
  • You are loved
  • You are beautiful
  • You are valuable
  • You are here for a purpose
  • Be an inspiration to yourself and everyone around you by rising above whatever life brings
  • Get help if you need it
  • Lean on friends for support
  • Seek group support if that feels right for you
  • You matter
  • Your life matters
  • Who you are inside is what will propel you forward
  • Love is everywhere and everything and all that matters

Consider problems or difficulties as a crossroad with choices, so stop, take a breath and sit with it until whatever needs to be done to move forward comes. No matter what you’re faced with, you can work your way through it by adapting a different perspective so you will become better, not just for yourself but for everyone in your life.

Thank you for stopping by, namaste.

Listen to your inner voice, with grace, grit & a sense of humor

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It pays to have a sense of humor, I laugh when I think of the times my inner voice was talking to me, and I didn’t pay attention. Has your gut “said” “don’t drive that way” or “don’t answer the door or take that call” and you did anyway? Every time I’ve ignored my inner voice or intuition, there was a lesson for me and a message that was even more powerful, “LISTEN, when your little voice talks to you.”

Your gut instinct or inner voice will always guide you in the right direction, I would like to share a story when I did listen.

I had been living like a nomad for nearly two years when the final but pivotal living situation pushed me to take action. I knew I was ready to find a place of my own to live, but like everyone I was nervous and not sure what to do. The place had to be close to work, within walking distance to shops, restaurants and someplace fun to go. I began the search on my own then I told a coworker what I was faced with, she offered to help. Even though I knew what I wanted, there were people who wanted me to just find someplace to live, but I had to tune them out determined that I was going to find the right place. Then things turned when the woman who was helping me had a rental in the perfect location with an obstacle, I would need a roommate. My mind raced, I wasn’t sure who that could be. Then I recalled a conversation with a friend who was in a spot and had asked me to be her roommate. I had said no, thinking at the time I was fine on my own, but my inner voice said, “She is waiting to hear from you”, so I sent her a message and voila, she was on board.  We moved in together a few weeks later.

There are many stories out there like mine, our inner GPS is always talking to us.  It helps to remember that paying attention to your inner voice requires humor, grit, grace and a sense of calm and the answers will come to you.  We all have the power and ability to create a life that is unique to who we are but it helps to be open to the unexpected and unplanned and go with it. We have been taught by the people n our lives to “take charge and grab the bull by the horns” and force the outcome to whatever situation we are faced with, but that usually results in unhappiness along with a load of obstacles, problems and hidden issues that we couldn’t have possibly known about.

Listening to your inner voice is natural, if you teach yourself to pay attention to your gut and the way you feel.  Here are a few tips:

  1. Spend time alone in nature.  This one tip is a gold mine, it is easier to sort through your feelings and tune out the outside influences to get to relax, have fun and some time to get to the core of what you want and what is in your heart.
  2. Meditate: This is a great tool to aid in getting to the root of your soul. More than just closing your eyes and reflecting, meditation, however you choose to do it, allows your mind to quiet so you’re able to connect with your innermost feelings.
  3. Stand up for what you want.  No one knows you or what you need better than you. Well-meaning family and friends have the idea that their opinions and experiences are what you need to hear to avoid making mistakes, being hurt or coming up against a disastrous outcome. That is the time when you must be determined to stand up for what you want and what is right for you.
  4. Have a sense of humor – If you run into obstacles or experience setbacks, have a sense of humor to help you get through whatever comes up,  it isn’t easy but it is the healthiest way, laughter truly is the best medicine.

Thank you, namaste.

 

The Art of Listening with Your Heart

Listening with your heart requires that you sit silently and listen without judgment. This way of listening compels you to be supportive and to help someone to reach inside to find the answers they are seeking themselves.  It isn’t easy, but it is a great way to empower yourself and the other person.

A few years ago I took a day long workshop focused on learning to listen with your heart.  It sounded simple, but it isn’t. We have been taught to listen half-heartedly waiting with bated breath for the moment when there is a break to inject our opinion and advice.

In my workshop, when the person we were paired with spoke, we had to sit silently, look them in the eyes and be fully present while they spoke.  When they were finished, the lesson was to empower them with praise for their willingness to share and provide support without telling them what to do. It was a lesson in humility because we believe that we can solve someone else’s problems or steer them in the direction according to how we’ve handled situations and how they could improve the way they’re handling things if only they’d listen to our sage advice.  That approach can only makes things worse and drive people apart.

I learned a lot that day. Now, when someone wants to share their situation, I ask if they want my perspective before I jump in knowing that they may not accept or believe that it is the way to go.  Listening with your heart is showing respect, compassion and kindness just by being there.

Most people just want someone to listen while they sort through the challenges they are faced with.  You don’t have to agree with their method of handing a situation furthermore you really don’t know what someone else is going through. Once a person vents and gets everything out, they can and should come upon solutions themselves. Don’t take it personally, it is never about us, it is about learning to go above and beyond to be conscious and caring.

Thank you for stopping by, Namaste

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How Come Your Life is Not a Journey but a Series of Triumphs

Up until a week ago I thought I was on a grand life journey with something amazing to achieve by the end of it, that is what we’ve been made to believe. But Alan Watts offers another way of looking at our lives and I, for one, am very intrigued.

Rather than choosing to live as though we are on voyage with a grand ending, consider living each day with whatever teachings it brings without a finale but many aha moments. It will transform the way you live your life. I am now on a path to just live each day not knowing what milestones will come.  At the end of each day, I know I did my best and I am pleased with however it ends.  It takes the pressure off of having to focus on a life end outcome bringing more satisfaction to the way my life is.  I am excited to live in the mindset that every day that I am alive is a triumph, rather than see my life as a series of hits and misses while trying to achieve a big finale by the time I leave this world.