“Choices are the hinges of destiny.” —Edwin Markham
We live most of our lives believing that we are limited or have no choice, especially in difficult situations. It doesn’t have to be that way, rather than thinking what’s the use and giving up, believe in a better future, decide a course of action by using your life experience and instincts for an outcome that you desire. Whenever I’ve been in a position that required I make a choice especially if it’s complex, I make sure that my happiness and peace of mind are the primary conditions for my final decision.
Every time you’ve had a complicated choice to make, are you choosing with your happiness and values as a priority or on another person’s perception, opinions and feelings with the expectation that you’ll have to live with an outcome that you don’t want?
That question is to prompt you to rethink your patterns; what are your priorities in making tough decisions, are you choosing based on logic or your intuition? Many of the choices we make are complex and may take much consideration, our values and quality of life have to be a top priority if we want to be happy and fulfilled. Remember if it is to be, it’s up to you, even if it means leaving your comfort zone.
Consider the outcome when you decide with someone else’s life in mind before your own. Are you really being selfish if you decide on behalf of what works for you? In my opinion, no. Making choices that are right for us means we cannot be and should not ever be responsible for someone else’s happiness.
Choosing for ourselves is a right we all deserve, especially since most of us have dealt with people who’ve tried to take our ability to choose away. Only you know how you want your life to be, never, ever is that anyone’s decision but yours. That is why choosing consciously and relying on your intuition are optimal ways for you to decide.
Choices have a number of possibilities whether real or imagined, ultimately the choices we make will affect our lives forever. Just think about all of the events in history that have taken place because someone made a choice to do something differently. You cannot control the world, but you can control how you respond to situations and the choices you make to deal with them. From my own personal experience, no matter what happens outside of you, when you stay focused on making a decision based on what is right for you and you trust yourself, happiness is just a choice away.
Some questions to ask yourself and ways you can make a decision from James Van Praagh:
- What is important and valuable to you? What you value may not be of much import to someone else. So know what you value most.
- Don’t lose focus on your future. Many people tend to make choices based on life as it appears now instead of looking to the future. Does your choice and its ramifications stay within the goals that you have set for yourself for the future?
- Have you looked at all the alternatives and considered different scenarios? Sometimes you just might consider a different outcome.
- How important is this decision, and are you willing to work on it? Don’t get caught up with how important a choice is, but — better yet — what a positive impact this has on your life.
- Don’t forget to use your “intuition” for your choice instead of your head.
I believe we all have a purpose and path that is affected by the free will choices we make. If we make choices by paying attention to our inner guidance, how God is speaking to us and what we feel in our heart, our path will be forever changed if we just flip the switch and choose.
Learn to love you… You will make so many choices differently when you love and respect yourself. Courtney Seard,
Consultant and Coach
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