It’s not what you say out of your mouth that determines your life, it is that whisper to yourself that has the most power. Robert T. Kiyosuki
Where does negative self-talk comes from?
Negative self talk slowly works its way into our mind from the people around us, too much attention on the media and the negativity in the world around us. The more we hear it, the more we think it. Negative thoughts are constantly swirling around in mind, they never stop. We create those gloomy thoughts, we can replace them with more practical and optimistic thoughts, if we just stop, listen and shift. Our mental and emotional health can only improve if we take the time to pay attention to what we say to ourselves.
If we tell ourselves we are fat and will always be overweight, we do everything to ensure that happens. If we tell ourselves we have a hard life with no way out, then we create that life. If we tell ourselves we are unlovable, not worthy of happiness, stupid or clumsy, not only are we what we think, but everyone around us will see only what we project ourselves to be.
From WebMD, The more you focus on negative events or shortcomings, the harder it is to put them behind you. Research shows that happy people put bad days behind them. http://www.webmd.com/balance/express-yourself-13/negative-self-talk
8 Ways to Turn Down the Volume on Negative-Self-Talk
Once you begin to retrain your brain, you will catch yourself and use one of the many ways you learn to replace it. Here are a few I’ve found successful:
- Instead of focusing on what you don’t like about yourself, find things that you do like, say you have pretty eyes or nice hands, you get the picture.
- When you catch yourself criticizing something you’ve done or said, ask yourself this, “Would I say this to my friends or family and is it really true?”
- Take stock of the people in your life who are negative, can you create a boundary to limit your time with them or are you better off finding new people to surround yourself with?
- We all have the habit of calling ourselves names or lashing out at ourselves when we make a mistake. Try thinking, I always do the best I can or I have good abilities and I know I will do better next time.
- Meditation is a way of calming yourself and helping to take your mind to a state of pure relaxation. It helps to give your brain a rest which helps you to pay more attention to what you say to yourself.
- Celebrate your progress, no matter how small the achievement is instead of finding fault with yourself.
- Stop that harsh inner critic when you assume the worst, start assuming the best outcome and let it go.
- Stop allowing what others think about the way you are, look, dress or act define you. Instead empower yourself by caring more about what you think of yourself and the way you are.
Set-backs and failures are a part of life, everyone experiences them even the most successful people have stories to tell. The key is to turn our inner critic into our inner friend so we can enjoy our life and thrive.
Thank you for your time, Namaste.