Listening with your heart requires that you sit silently and listen without judgment. This way of listening compels you to be supportive and to help someone to reach inside to find the answers they are seeking themselves. It isn’t easy, but it is a great way to empower yourself and the other person.
A few years ago I took a day long workshop focused on learning to listen with your heart. It sounded simple, but it isn’t. We have been taught to listen half-heartedly waiting with bated breath for the moment when there is a break to inject our opinion and advice.
In my workshop, when the person we were paired with spoke, we had to sit silently, look them in the eyes and be fully present while they spoke. When they were finished, the lesson was to empower them with praise for their willingness to share and provide support without telling them what to do. It was a lesson in humility because we believe that we can solve someone else’s problems or steer them in the direction according to how we’ve handled situations and how they could improve the way they’re handling things if only they’d listen to our sage advice. That approach can only makes things worse and drive people apart.
I learned a lot that day. Now, when someone wants to share their situation, I ask if they want my perspective before I jump in knowing that they may not accept or believe that it is the way to go. Listening with your heart is showing respect, compassion and kindness just by being there.
Most people just want someone to listen while they sort through the challenges they are faced with. You don’t have to agree with their method of handing a situation furthermore you really don’t know what someone else is going through. Once a person vents and gets everything out, they can and should come upon solutions themselves. Don’t take it personally, it is never about us, it is about learning to go above and beyond to be conscious and caring.
Thank you for stopping by, Namaste